It seems par for the course that fathers seek to bond with their kids especially boys playing the age-old game of catch, whether with a football or baseball. Theres something innate about that activity between fathers and sons; perhaps its an instinctive reminder for Dad that he once did this with his own dad or at least wished he had. Its something I definitely wished I shared with my own dad.
When I
read the tale of MLB All-Star pitcher Chris Perez, and how he and his dad Tim bonded over Chris inclusion in the big name lineup last year, I confess I felt a tinge of envy. However, Im glad to see that there are sons who look up to and value their dads even as they trudge along into adulthood and families of their own.
Perez
shared with sports website
The Bleacher Report on how he gifted his father with his 2011 All-Star ring, making it five sizes larger so that his dad could wear it.
Perez on the trying to surprise his father with the ring:
Before entering the brunch, they handed out All-Star rings. When I picked mine up, they asked me to try it on. (I already had planned to give the ring to my Dad, so I had told them to make the ring 5 sizes too big for me.) My Dad was right next to me and noticed how big it was on me. I tried to play it off, but he kept making a deal about it. Flash forward to after the game, my family and I are relaxing back in the hotel, and I pulled out the ring and gave it to him. He was shocked/surprised/happy/speechless. I couldn't think of anyone else that deserved the ring more than him; he's the reason I love the game, and the reason I became an All-Star.Chris Perez didnt enter the game last year at the Midsummer Classic, but its a neat story showing that no matter how old you are as a son, you always want to please and gain the respect of your dad. Sometimes its tough to show our dads how much we love and adore them as adults, but I know as I speak for myself and other fathers that it never gets redundant to know that your children love you.
Tim Perez summed up his feelings about getting the ring from his son in a quick interview last summer. I wasn't expecting it. We were in the room, and Chris just said 'I want to give you something,'" Tim Perez said to the Bradenton Herald. "My first reaction was, 'Son this is your ring. And he says 'No, dad, I wouldn't here without you.' I wasn't expecting anything. I was just a dad supporting his son.
Tim Perez and his amazing humility is the very reason why fatherhood has to return to the forefront of the conversation when talking about combating societal ills. When a father does the right thing for his children, they become adults who respect the value and importance of what it means to be a dad when their time comes to be handed the torch.
Sure, I may pine for a time for my dad and I to have a similar bonding experience and I still have my baseball glove and ball from when I was 12 years old at the ready. Hopefully one day soon, my dad and I will have a moment to share and call our own just like Tim and Chris Perez.
Until then, I can only admire them from afar.